I want to be healthy and fit, but that pizza tastes so good I'm going to eat another piece even though I'm full. I want to write a book, but I just don't know where to start and who would read it anyway? I want to have a great relationship, but I'm afraid of being hurt. It's easier to just be alone. I want to go to this college, but I don't know how I'm going to pay for it so I'm not even going to apply. I want, but. I want, but. I want, but... They are the obstacles we throw on our own path and then complain and wonder why?
Strangely enough they are usually a matter of perception. Last year at Spring Break my daughter, her dad and I took a trip. He lives on the East Coast, so when he comes out they usually like to do something fun. This year we all decided to go a on a road trip. Here was the plan. Leave Oak Park, drive to the Hearst Castle, meander up the 101, stay over night in Monteray Bay, check out the Monteray Bay Aquarium, drive to San Francisco for the rest of the trip and see all the main tourist sites. After leaving the Hearst Castle we noticed a sign that said, 101 closes at 7PM, Big Sur Businesses Open. OK, not a problem. We had plenty of time to drive up the coast with these magnificent views and reach Monteray Bay with time to spare. But... when we got within 4 miles of Monteray Bay the bridge was out. There was no other way, so we turned around and headed back to see if there was an alternate route. Got to Big Sur and the nice gas station lady said, "Yes if you go back 40 miles there is a very curvey road that is narrow and goes over the mountain or you can go all the way back to the pass near the Hearst Castle. But it's too late to do either tonight because the road it closing shortly and you'll never make it. If I were you I'd get a room soon. Most of the hotels are filling up." This bridge evidently had been out for months. It was a huge repair in a precarious site. No where on the original sign did it say anything about this. Consequently we, (and a lot of others) were trapped. Now, I found this quite funny. Kinda like a big joke was played on us. My daughter did not! "We're trapped!" "This is the part in the movie just before the people get hacked by a guy in a mask!" On and on it went. The more she talked the more I laughed. The rooms were expensive, small, no TV and no outlet in the bathroom. More laughter. The food was good, but also expensive. More laughter. They had everyone between a rock and a hard place, gouging at its best! Next morning over the mountain on the "curvey" road we went. I was driving and loved it. Alexa couldn't watch because the road was so narrow and hugged the edge of the mountain. Darren had to lie down in the back seat because he was so car sick. Same trip. Different perspective. I have to say it was one of my favorite trips ever... my perspective. When I told Alexa I was going to write about this the diatribe began again.... her perspective.
Change your perspective and your "but" gets smaller and smaller until it's gone. The smaller your "but" is, the less resistance you will have. So, time to take my own advice. Time for running, working out with weights, eating healthier and dropping that extra that drives me crazy, BUT was unwilling to do anything about. No more obstacles for me.... bathing suit weather is just around the corner. BRING IT!!
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